Many may think that as Asians, we are filial to our parents. Is this true? Are Singaporeans a fillial lot ? How about cases we hear of when children sue their parents or refuse to provide for their needs?
I feel that here in Singapore, there are both sets of people.In the sense that, there is the filial lot,and there is also the lot who is not filial. It reali depends on the character of the child itself. If the child is the type that doesnt show basic courtesy and respect to their parents,then maybe he or she might belong to the non-filial group. But if the child knows how to take care of their parents hearts,takin good care of them,while showin them that amount of respect,then i guess those kind of kids belong to the filial group. All in all,what i can say is that,it epends a ot on the children's character. *~Muhd Farhan B Hassan~*
hmm, i feel that whether singapoeans are filial to their parents lies solely on themselves and perhaps their environment.
we are taught from young to be respectful and filial to our parents be it in schools or at home. plus, our parents are the ones taking care of us since young we have no reason to forsaken them.
however, it's the heart of men that's hard to comprehen. depending on the stimuli of the environment and many other factors anyone can change.
hence, i would believe that singapore is not the only country facing this problem.
First and foremost, i think that it doesnt make sense that only if your an Asian you are a fillial to your parents. From what i believe each individual should be fillial to their parents who took care of them ever since they were born. I can say that there are the fillial ones and nt fillial ones here in Singapore. I conclude that those unfillial towards their parents are being ungrateful to them. They may have thier own reasons but without your both parents you would not be even brought into this world.
It all depends on the character of the child and the enviornment the child live in. It is not the nationality that will determine if the child is filial to its parents.
Perhaps is because the asians are more traditional and the empasis alot on the moral values that is being taught to their child since young so the west may have the assumption that the asian is more filial.
The environment can change a person easily, so when he is young he is filial, but not necessary he is filial when he is older. So, it all depends on the the person character and this environment he/she is in.
People have this stereotype that Asians are very filial to our parents and that filial piety is the most important virtue in our society. I feel that this is because they believe that as Asians, we are brought up in a Confucianist society, where filial piety is instilled in us by our parents since young. We were taught by our parents that when we grow up, we will have to provide for our parents.
However, this is only the case for the majority of us. There are still a number of cases where children sue their parents or refuse to provide for their needs. Nevertheless, the number of cases is on the incline in recent years and the trend is worrying. Are Singaporeans becoming more and more unfilial?
I believe that this increasing trend can be attributed to the evolving society. The world is gradually changing from one that embraces filial piety to one where the child is king. This is made worse by the decreasing number of children per household.
Parents nowadays give their children material possessions to make up for the lack of time spent with each other. This eventually spoils the child and take everything for granted, thinking that it is his parents who should provide for him and not vice versa, even when he is already working.
Thus, I feel that the onus is on the parents to spend more time with their children to impart them with the right values from young, including filial piety. This, I believe, is a much better way of showing love to their children rather than just giving them material possessions. By doing so, I believe that filial piety will still be an important virtue that Asians can proudly uphold even in generations to come.
Firstly, why do people think that as long as you are an asian, you are definetly filial to your parents? I'm not saying that we shouldn't be in fact we should be as it is only right and it's a virtue.
I believe it is very unfair to say that Singaporeans are unfilial or filial. Some are but some are not. However I am hearing more of the negative side. If I have to make a stand, I would say that Singaporeans are not a filial lot. I do not know of any cases personally but I heard alot from the news. Working adults neglecting their parents, especially when they have their own family, children sueing their parents over minor issues and parents sueing their children for not providing for their needs.
The government know about such issue therefore enforcing a law for such cases. Yes it is a way to sort things out but I do feel that it is such a shame that this law was enforced, showing how filial we are. Till reaching a point that the government has to step in and do it by force.
My conclusion will be that overall Singaporeans are not a filial bunch of children. Yes there are exceptions but they are the minority.
I feel that only a few Singaporeans are filial to their parents. On the other hand, we have the majority who are not.
However, based on my opinion, it really is how an individual is brought up since young. This is so as the child's character is hugely impacted by this.
If the child has been in a harsh environment since young, then, that is what he or she has learnt to treat others the same way. However, that is not always the case but nearly most of the time it is.
But to sum it all up, I feel that the parents should give care and love to their children and try to educate their children to be filial to them in the future. But this problem will still be around based on the child's character.
I feel both lots exists in singapore,the filial and the unfilial. Many people tend to abandon their parents after they grow old as they feel that they are a burden to them. These parents then end up in old folks homes or for the not so fortunate, on the streets.
However, we cannot make a judgement base on this alone, as there are still many people who are very filial to their parents, staying by their side,and taking care of them.
Ultimately, it all depends on the person's character and mindset.To me,i feel that it is only right that we take care of our parents after they grow old. Our parents took care of us without fail and repaying them for what they have done, i believe that it's not too much to ask for.
Filial piety is a child's natural response to overwhelming love from his/her parents. Parents who don't love their children have no right to demand filial piety from them. I feel that the background of a person reflects greatly on their personality. Being a Singaporean, i have seen quite alot of parents-children relationship. Majority of those that are filial belongs to those who have great parents which are kind-hearted and treat them well. Of course, people cant judge Singaporean as a whole by only looking at a few parties.
In a nutshell, i think there are several factors like the background of children, education of children, the treatment they receive from parents which affects the relationship and filial-ness. Lastly, not to forget 'You reap what you sow.' Therefore treat your family members well. ^^
I do not think that race or nationality has anything to do with how filial a child is to his or her parents. Although I do agree that the enviroment and the kind of exposure the child gets does play a part in influencing the childs deccision. For instance if a child is put in an area where status and wealth is given priority he would most probably be less filial then a child in an enviroment where family and bonding with people is important. I also feel very strongly that the childs upbringing is very important, if a child is taught the importance of family and its values and grows up in a family that frequently gathers togather and celebrates togather then the child would place high importance on his family which ultimately leeds him to being a filial child. Nevertheless the most important of all these is the example that the parents set for their child, as I am sure you are all familiar with the saying you reep what you sow.
I think that Singaporeans are actually filial to their parents. However, most of them are actually filial unwillingly. Some may view it as a responsibility whereas others view them as a burden they cannot get rid of. This may be because of firstly the punishments of the law, and secondly the way society is going to see them if they do abandon their parents. So as Singaporeans are usually afraid of the law andwant to look good in front of others, they are forced to be filial to their parents.
I think that Singaporeans are only somewhat filial to their parents. Although filial piety is emphasized in school, and is one of the most important virtues, not everyone practises it.
Many Singaporeans are more concerned about having material possessions. They spend alot of time building their career or spending time out of home with friends. Therefore they slowly forget the love and care that their parents showed when raising them up.
Moreover, some people even make their parents stay in old folks homes, citing the lack of time to take care of them. I think that these people are trying to brush aside the responsibility of taking care of their parents once they are unable to fend for themselves.
I think that the act of maintenance of parents is needed in Singapore. Some people are financially capable of supporting their aged parents but they choose otherwise. Although the law brings with it some disgrace to our people, it is needed to deal with such irresponsible people.
Personally, i think that it does not matter which part of the world you are in when it comes to filial piety. As for Singapore, i believe that most of us have this virtue in mind but at times, we just tend to take things for granted and fail express our love for our parents in a proper manner.
Nowadays singaporeans are just to busy to remember what they had learned in moral education when they were young.
There are also other factors which determine if children are filial such as enviroment that they grow up from and their own character. If their parents treated their grandparents badly or vice versa, they will do the same when they grow up.
Most Singaporeans are filial but there is just small amount of black sheeps.
Well, all ican say is that it IS TRUE that Asians are a filial lot LAST TIME (back in my parents and grandparents days). However , i cannot say the same for the teenagers and children now. The young of singapore have become an ill-bred brood of ungrateful heartless people. Why is say this is because. News of children fighting over assets with their parents never fail to splash the front pages of widely-read newspapers be it in malay chinese english or tamal. And we only have the parents themselves to blame. Parents nowadays are workaholics and HARDly have time to spend with their children. Like KENNETH said, in order to make up for the lack of time to bond with their children, they resort to showering them with gifts and presents. Turning these individuals into materialistic young adults when they grow up, who will think that MONEY is everything. Bloodlines no longer hold a strong bond. In fact money is more important to them than anything . Which includes their parents, leaving their parents in the lurch when they are unable to work and take care of themselves. Who would want to keep "something" who cannot work and do anything helpful but just leeches on your household's food, electricity, money etc... Therefore, the chilren nowadays are very unfilial. Some to the extent of leaving their parents in old-age homes and only returning to pay for their lodging and leave immediately. Not even bothering to take a peek and see how the person who brought them into this world is doing. ASIANS ARE UNFILIAL TO THEIR PARENTS. -ISAIAH HOW JIE JIE
Traditonal asian values are like honesty filial piety. However, all these are in the past. Quite a number of us have forgotten our roots and all these values.
I would like to belive that most singaporeans are filial but there will always be those minorities who treat their parents badly. Like sueing their parents or sending them to homes and not taking care of them.
I think one reason that leads to such acts is perhaps the singapore education system. Where it is demanding and competitive and not focusing on moral values. Such emphasize is so much more lower when compared to academic. Through this, individuals will grow up thinking for themselves only. being self centred and loses the importance on family concept.
Sad to say, from my experience, Sigaporeans are not filial to their parents.
I know of classmates who have constant disagreements and fights with their parents. Some of them have no respect for their parents at all, and I really wonder why.
I'm sure both parties have responsiblities to bear for family breakdown but neither side seems to want to change.
Something has to be done, and people have to put aside their own pride and start building back their relationship with their parents. Doesn't that only show what kind of character you are if you can't forgive and forget, let alone try to get along?
Furthermore, such behaviour could be destructive for future families. If you can't get along with your own parents well and show love, how can you expect to create a good family for yourself?
Its sad to see that there is an act for the maintenance of parents in Singapore law. If we truly we're filial to our parents, such a law should not even exist in Singapore.
We all should reflect on ourselves and be the ones to step up and induce change. We really have to surrender our own pride and act, forsaking our own interest for the sake of others. Even I am guilty.
I think not many people now are filial to their parents compare to my mother's time. From what I see, I think majority of people in this era will at least argue with their parents after they turned adult. Because maybe when they are adult, they think that no one will stop them and it is time for them to move on their own. Thus,ego will also develop among them and started to forget or in another word abandoned their parents if they spotted their parent small mistakes against them in the past such as caning them, scolded them, forced them to do housework e.t.c. I also had heard stories from an old man talkng about himself when he was young a few decades ago. He said kids during those days really respected their parents. Even when he was 21, he stood up whenever his father walk past by him. Now, you could only dream for that kind respect from kids nowadays.
To my opinion there a few factors that led the people not only Singaporeans but worldwide why they are no longer so filial like in the olden days.
Firstly, it will be he media. Media especially tv shows has a great impact on people especially young children as they tend to copy anything that was shown in the tv without even thinking.
Secondly is the various concepts the people nowadays tends to follow. For Punk, it teaches you about rebellion. People who follow this concept tends to rebel to many things, the most common one is the anti-government rebel. No wonder why kids nowadays tends not to respect their parents due to different understanding.
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I feel that here in Singapore, there are both sets of people.In the sense that, there is the filial lot,and there is also the lot who is not filial. It reali depends on the character of the child itself. If the child is the type that doesnt show basic courtesy and respect to their parents,then maybe he or she might belong to the non-filial group. But if the child knows how to take care of their parents hearts,takin good care of them,while showin them that amount of respect,then i guess those kind of kids belong to the filial group. All in all,what i can say is that,it epends a ot on the children's character.
*~Muhd Farhan B Hassan~*
hmm, i feel that whether singapoeans are filial to their parents lies solely on themselves and perhaps their environment.
we are taught from young to be respectful and filial to our parents be it in schools or at home. plus, our parents are the ones taking care of us since young we have no reason to forsaken them.
however, it's the heart of men that's hard to comprehen. depending on the stimuli of the environment and many other factors anyone can change.
hence, i would believe that singapore is not the only country facing this problem.
First and foremost, i think that it doesnt make sense that only if your an Asian you are a fillial to your parents. From what i believe each individual should be fillial to their parents who took care of them ever since they were born. I can say that there are the fillial ones and nt fillial ones here in Singapore. I conclude that those unfillial towards their parents are being ungrateful to them. They may have thier own reasons but without your both parents you would not be even brought into this world.
It all depends on the character of the child and the enviornment the child live in. It is not the nationality that will determine if the child is filial to its parents.
Perhaps is because the asians are more traditional and the empasis alot on the moral values that is being taught to their child since young so the west may have the assumption that the asian is more filial.
The environment can change a person easily, so when he is young he is filial, but not necessary he is filial when he is older. So, it all depends on the the person character and this environment he/she is in.
People have this stereotype that Asians are very filial to our parents and that filial piety is the most important virtue in our society. I feel that this is because they believe that as Asians, we are brought up in a Confucianist society, where filial piety is instilled in us by our parents since young. We were taught by our parents that when we grow up, we will have to provide for our parents.
However, this is only the case for the majority of us. There are still a number of cases where children sue their parents or refuse to provide for their needs. Nevertheless, the number of cases is on the incline in recent years and the trend is worrying. Are Singaporeans becoming more and more unfilial?
I believe that this increasing trend can be attributed to the evolving society. The world is gradually changing from one that embraces filial piety to one where the child is king. This is made worse by the decreasing number of children per household.
Parents nowadays give their children material possessions to make up for the lack of time spent with each other. This eventually spoils the child and take everything for granted, thinking that it is his parents who should provide for him and not vice versa, even when he is already working.
Thus, I feel that the onus is on the parents to spend more time with their children to impart them with the right values from young, including filial piety. This, I believe, is a much better way of showing love to their children rather than just giving them material possessions. By doing so, I believe that filial piety will still be an important virtue that Asians can proudly uphold even in generations to come.
Hi class, just for your information..
Do you know that there is an act for the maintenance of parents in Singapore law?
This means that aged parents can bring their children to court if they fail to provide for them financially in their old age.
Do you think there is a need for this law? Or do you think it is a disgrace that such a law exists?
For more information, see the URL below: http://www.singapedia.com.sg/entries/m/maintenance_of_parents_act.html
Firstly, why do people think that as long as you are an asian, you are definetly filial to your parents? I'm not saying that we shouldn't be in fact we should be as it is only right and it's a virtue.
I believe it is very unfair to say that Singaporeans are unfilial or filial. Some are but some are not.
However I am hearing more of the negative side. If I have to make a stand, I would say that Singaporeans are not a filial lot.
I do not know of any cases personally but I heard alot from the news. Working adults neglecting their parents, especially when they have their own family, children sueing their parents over minor issues and parents sueing their children for not providing for their needs.
The government know about such issue therefore enforcing a law for such cases. Yes it is a way to sort things out but I do feel that it is such a shame that this law was enforced, showing how filial we are. Till reaching a point that the government has to step in and do it by force.
My conclusion will be that overall Singaporeans are not a filial bunch of children. Yes there are exceptions but they are the minority.
I feel that only a few Singaporeans are filial to their parents. On the other hand, we have the majority who are not.
However, based on my opinion, it really is how an individual is brought up since young. This is so as the child's character is hugely impacted by this.
If the child has been in a harsh environment since young, then, that is what he or she has learnt to treat others the same way. However, that is not always the case but nearly most of the time it is.
But to sum it all up, I feel that the parents should give care and love to their children and try to educate their children to be filial to them in the future. But this problem will still be around based on the child's character.
I feel both lots exists in singapore,the filial and the unfilial. Many people tend to abandon their parents after they grow old as they feel that they are a burden to them. These parents then end up in old folks homes or for the not so fortunate, on the streets.
However, we cannot make a judgement base on this alone, as there are still many people who are very filial to their parents, staying by their side,and taking care of them.
Ultimately, it all depends on the person's character and mindset.To me,i feel that it is only right that we take care of our parents after they grow old. Our parents took care of us without fail and repaying them for what they have done, i believe that it's not too much to ask for.
Filial piety is a child's natural response to overwhelming love from his/her parents. Parents who don't love their children have no right to demand filial piety from them. I feel that the background of a person reflects greatly on their personality. Being a Singaporean, i have seen quite alot of parents-children relationship. Majority of those that are filial belongs to those who have great parents which are kind-hearted and treat them well. Of course, people cant judge Singaporean as a whole by only looking at a few parties.
In a nutshell, i think there are several factors like the background of children, education of children, the treatment they receive from parents which affects the relationship and filial-ness. Lastly, not to forget 'You reap what you sow.' Therefore treat your family members well. ^^
I do not think that race or nationality has anything to do with how filial a child is to his or her parents. Although I do agree that the enviroment and the kind of exposure the child gets does play a part in influencing the childs deccision. For instance if a child is put in an area where status and wealth is given priority he would most probably be less filial then a child in an enviroment where family and bonding with people is important. I also feel very strongly that the childs upbringing is very important, if a child is taught the importance of family and its values and grows up in a family that frequently gathers togather and celebrates togather then the child would place high importance on his family which ultimately leeds him to being a filial child. Nevertheless the most important of all these is the example that the parents set for their child, as I am sure you are all familiar with the saying you reep what you sow.
I think that Singaporeans are actually filial to their parents. However, most of them are actually filial unwillingly.
Some may view it as a responsibility whereas others view them as a burden they cannot get rid of.
This may be because of firstly the punishments of the law, and secondly the way society is going to see them if they do abandon their parents.
So as Singaporeans are usually afraid of the law andwant to look good in front of others, they are forced to be filial to their parents.
I think that Singaporeans are only somewhat filial to their parents. Although filial piety is emphasized in school, and is one of the most important virtues, not everyone practises it.
Many Singaporeans are more concerned about having material possessions. They spend alot of time building their career or spending time out of home with friends. Therefore they slowly forget the love and care that their parents showed when raising them up.
Moreover, some people even make their parents stay in old folks homes, citing the lack of time to take care of them. I think that these people are trying to brush aside the responsibility of taking care of their parents once they are unable to fend for themselves.
I think that the act of maintenance of parents is needed in Singapore. Some people are financially capable of supporting their aged parents but they choose otherwise. Although the law brings with it some disgrace to our people, it is needed to deal with such irresponsible people.
Lakshman
Personally, i think that it does not matter which part of the world you are in when it comes to filial piety. As for Singapore, i believe that most of us have this virtue in mind but at times, we just tend to take things for granted and fail express our love for our parents in a proper manner.
Nowadays singaporeans are just to busy to remember what they had learned in moral education when they were young.
There are also other factors which determine if children are filial such as enviroment that they grow up from and their own character. If their parents treated their grandparents badly or vice versa, they will do the same when they grow up.
Most Singaporeans are filial but there is just small amount of black sheeps.
Well, all ican say is that it IS TRUE that Asians are a filial lot LAST TIME (back in my parents and grandparents days). However , i cannot say the same for the teenagers and children now. The young of singapore have become an ill-bred brood of ungrateful heartless people. Why is say this is because. News of children fighting over assets with their parents never fail to splash the front pages of widely-read newspapers be it in malay chinese english or tamal. And we only have the parents themselves to blame. Parents nowadays are workaholics and HARDly have time to spend with their children. Like KENNETH said, in order to make up for the lack of time to bond with their children, they resort to showering them with gifts and presents. Turning these individuals into materialistic young adults when they grow up, who will think that MONEY is everything. Bloodlines no longer hold a strong bond. In fact money is more important to them than anything . Which includes their parents, leaving their parents in the lurch when they are unable to work and take care of themselves. Who would want to keep "something" who cannot work and do anything helpful but just leeches on your household's food, electricity, money etc... Therefore, the chilren nowadays are very unfilial. Some to the extent of leaving their parents in old-age homes and only returning to pay for their lodging and leave immediately. Not even bothering to take a peek and see how the person who brought them into this world is doing. ASIANS ARE UNFILIAL TO THEIR PARENTS. -ISAIAH HOW JIE JIE
Traditonal asian values are like honesty filial piety. However, all these are in the past. Quite a number of us have forgotten our roots and all these values.
I would like to belive that most singaporeans are filial but there will always be those minorities who treat their parents badly. Like sueing their parents or sending them to homes and not taking care of them.
I think one reason that leads to such acts is perhaps the singapore education system. Where it is demanding and competitive and not focusing on moral values. Such emphasize is so much more lower when compared to academic. Through this, individuals will grow up thinking for themselves only. being self centred and loses the importance on family concept.
Sad to say, from my experience, Sigaporeans are not filial to their parents.
I know of classmates who have constant disagreements and fights with their parents. Some of them have no respect for their parents at all, and I really wonder why.
I'm sure both parties have responsiblities to bear for family breakdown but neither side seems to want to change.
Something has to be done, and people have to put aside their own pride and start building back their relationship with their parents. Doesn't that only show what kind of character you are if you can't forgive and forget, let alone try to get along?
Furthermore, such behaviour could be destructive for future families. If you can't get along with your own parents well and show love, how can you expect to create a good family for yourself?
Its sad to see that there is an act for the maintenance of parents in Singapore law. If we truly we're filial to our parents, such a law should not even exist in Singapore.
We all should reflect on ourselves and be the ones to step up and induce change. We really have to surrender our own pride and act, forsaking our own interest for the sake of others. Even I am guilty.
I think not many people now are filial to their parents compare to my mother's time. From what I see, I think majority of people in this era will at least argue with their parents after they turned adult. Because maybe when they are adult, they think that no one will stop them and it is time for them to move on their own. Thus,ego will also develop among them and started to forget or in another word abandoned their parents if they spotted their parent small mistakes against them in the past such as caning them, scolded them, forced them to do housework e.t.c. I also had heard stories from an old man talkng about himself when he was young a few decades ago. He said kids during those days really respected their parents. Even when he was 21, he stood up whenever his father walk past by him. Now, you could only dream for that kind respect from kids nowadays.
To my opinion there a few factors that led the people not only Singaporeans but worldwide why they are no longer so filial like in the olden days.
Firstly, it will be he media. Media especially tv shows has a great impact on people especially young children as they tend to copy anything that was shown in the tv without even thinking.
Secondly is the various concepts the people nowadays tends to follow. For Punk, it teaches you about rebellion. People who follow this concept tends to rebel to many things, the most common one is the anti-government rebel. No wonder why kids nowadays tends not to respect their parents due to different understanding.
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